An Army Wife's Life

Once upon a time I was a college student, then I was a teacher, and now I'm a mother. Technically, I'm currently a freelance writer... but really I am an ARMY WIFE. Expect to find... funny (at least to me) anecdotes, thoughts about la vida military, hopes, anxieties, dreams, commentaries on current events.

Wednesday, October 31, 2007

Halloween Homecoming

Baby Diva 2006
I'll never forget Halloween, October 31, 2006...because that is the day that my husband called to say he would be arriving in Killeen, TX, in hours, from Iraq.

A Halloween Homecoming, that was a real treat. However, there was a trick, or a catch, if you will.

He was home a couple of weeks early because my dear little baby was due in surgery on November 6...the day after my husband's 30th birthday.

My husband never got to journey home with his men, all of whom survived the deployment, thank the Lord. My husband never got the big reception in the gym. And he was never able to really celebrate his 30th birthday.

But he came home. His men came home. And our baby's heart was healed.

So, on the balance, Halloween is still my favorite celebration of the year, bringing more treats than tricks. I am hoping to enjoy a calmer, less eventful Halloween today.

Happy Halloween!

Who Needs a Costume When You're Already a Princess?

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Win It On Wednesday! - October 31, 2007

Happy Halloween! Ever wanted to see what my baby would look like if she were eating brains? Check out my Wordless Wednesday. Yes, macabre, I know. I also encourage you to check out what some other cool bloggers have been saying about Halloween on my Halloween Blog Round-up on Mamanista! -- great for last minute inspiration.


Here are some bloggy contests I know about that have deadlines on or after October 31:

If you are a blogger hosting a contest, or know of a really cool contest on a blog, please list it in the comments with the link to the actual post (not the main page), the prize you can win, and the end date. If you know how to code it, please link the title of the contest to the post to make my life a little easier. If you can't, though, no worries.

And, if the contest is still going when I put up the next post, I'll include it in the main body of that post, too.

Please, only contests hosted on blogs. Spammy corporate-owned bots will be hunted down and destroyed--not really, but I'll delete the "comment."

Monday, October 29, 2007

Sammy's Soldier Helps Children Cope With Deployment: Review & Contest

Sammy's Soldier is sweet picture book, written to help young children feel more comfortable with the deployment process. You can have a chance to win a signed copy at the end of this post.

As both a trained family counselor and the wife of a former Marine, Ms. White understands how confusing and trying deployments can be for our littlest patriots.

Her book follows Sammy through the preparations leading up to his father's deployment, some of the activities Sammy and his mother do during the deployment, and then finally the homecoming. Personally, I would have enjoyed seeing a few more pages identifying ways Sammy and his mother pass the deployment.

The naturalistic illustrations and simple text make for an easy and enjoyable read for children, ages 3-8. At the end of the book is a page for the child to draw a picture of his or her own hero.

This picture book is a wonderful starting point for children to discuss deployment with their families, including their feelings about the deployment and also ways they can cope with their emotions positively.

Military life is certainly different from civilian life (in fact, this review was delayed as our final military move ended up taking up more time and energy than I had planned) and Ms. White understands that. Sammy's Soldier goes a long towards normalizing the deployment experience, making it less threatening and stressful for military children.



This is a great book and I'm hoping to pass it along to someone who can use it. Whether you have a young child who loves a soldier, or you know of a friend who would like the book, or you are a soldier's angel, it is simple to enter this contest.

As part of the Rocks in My Dryer Fall, Y'all Bloggy Giveaway, I'm hosting a giveaway of a copy of this book, which has been signed by the author.

All you have to do is leave a comment by November 2 and make sure to include an e-mail or website where I can reach you. Your e-mail does not appear publicly but I will be able to view it. I hate spam and will only e-mail you if you win!

Contest Ends: 11:59, November 2 and the winner will be announced on Nov. 3



While you are here, don't forget to check out my upcoming Military Family Blog Carnivals (with a prize) and the opportunities to Guest Blog.

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Wednesday, October 24, 2007

Soldier's Widow Keeps His Memory Alive Through His Son, Born Two Years After His Death

I saw this link on a message board I read: Two years after US soldier's death, widow has his son.

Before DH left for Iraq, we were trying to conceive. We didn't know if it would work, and in fact we did not find out I was pregnant until two days after he had left.

Although we never discussed a sperm bank, one of the things we discussed is how I would feel carrying and raising his child should something happen to him. He was concerned that it would make it more difficult for me to begin a new life. And I told him that I love him and really want to have a child with him, that I couldn't be guaranteed I would ever feel that way about another man, and that having his child would give me a reason to stay focused on life.

Fortunately, my husband came back from Iraq.

Kathleen Smith was not to have that particular blessing. However, she and her husband had frozen some of his semen so that they could keep trying to have a baby, despite their fertility difficulties.

Some people are concerned because they did not expressly discuss the idea of her using the sperm in the event of his death. I also get why the grandparents weren't sure at first.

However, it sounds like the couple were very committed to having a child together. Ultimately, I think I will put this down to "Until you walk a mile..." I haven't been in this brave widow's shoes and it sounds like the love she has for her husband and their child is truly beautiful.

Anyone else??? What are your thoughts on the topic.

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Win It On Wednesday! - October 24, 2007

Because MilSpouses could always use some free stuff, here are some bloggy contests I know about that have deadlines after October 24:

If you are a blogger hosting a contest, or know of a contest on a blog, please list it in the comments with the link to the actual post (not the main page), the prize you can win, and the end date. If you know how to code it, please link the title of the contest to the post to make my life a little easier. If you can't, though, no worries.

And, if the contest is still going when I put up the next post, I'll include it in the main body of that post, too.

Please, only contests hosted on blogs. Spammy corporate-owned bots will be hunted down and destroyed--not really, but I'll delete the "comment."

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Sunday, October 21, 2007

Military Family Carnival: Molly Wants You!

Starting in November, I will host a blog carnival for Military Family Members and Spouses (and Military Personnel are welcome, too, although you may have to put your own spin on the topic).

I hope give out a prize once a month, drawn randomly from all the participants that month. If you post in multiple weeks, you'll get multiple entries!!! If I find lots of sponsors, I'll give out prizes more frequently.

Here's how it works:

  1. Each week on Monday I'll post a topic and include a little box where you can add the title of your post and your link to that specific post. If you want to plan ahead, I'll put the topics for the month in the sidebar.
  2. Write a post (or revisit and revise an old post) and link back to the specific post for that week where everyone will be adding their links.
  3. On Friday, I'll change the date on the post to make it appear at the top of the page so everyone will see your cool posts. Please go visit each other's posts and read and comment.
  4. The following Monday I will add all the links into the post permanently and start with a new post.
  5. Got suggestions for topics??? I'm all ears. Post them here in the comments or shoot me an e-mail: mollypitcher at gmail dot com.

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Thursday, October 18, 2007

Unemployment Benefits for Military Spouses

I saw this in Army Times and then another Mom on Maya's Mom posted it: 4 more states offer benefits to spouses forced to quit jobs (see excerpt and map below).

What are your thoughts on the topic? Should spouses who quit to move with a servicemember be entitled to unemployment? What, if any, restrictions should be placed on it?

Is it the least the states can do for the families who are serving? Is it critical to national security because of the need to retain servicemembers and keep family morale going? Is it promoting a culture of dependency and discouraging able bodied workers from finding work once they move?

What are your thoughts as a military spouse? as a citizen? as a taxpayer?

Should the federal government change the law to require states to define a military move as being unemployed "through no fault of your own?" Or should the military keep lobbying each of the remaining states individually?

My personal experience was I left my job and was not granted a leave of absence because I am a military spouse and they did not think I would be back (I actually have this in writing, smart PR move on their part, huh?).

Texas actually has a great program, Texas Workforce, available free to military spouses that provides resources for job hunting and actually pays for certifications, classes, gas, babysitting, and more while you look for a job if you left a job to move to Texas with your spouse on military orders.

I ended up freelancing, but they would have paid for all exams and certifications for me to transfer my teaching certification to Texas--down to the postage required for mailing in the forms.

Personally, I would like to see more funding for programs like this, helping military families to locate jobs when they PCS. However, I do think it is important to have a safety net for military families--especially because a servicemember will be more effective and more likely to stay in the military if his spouse and family are satisfied with their situation.

I do worry about abuses, as I do with any other benefits program for any group of people, but I do think in this case these new laws are on the right track.

I would love to hear your thoughts!

4 more states offer benefits to spouses forced to quit jobs (EXCERPT, click for full article)

According to the Defense Department, 21 states now allow trailing military spouses to receive unemployment benefits. Eight states deny such benefits outright; the rest consider such requests on a case-by-case basis.

The Pentagon is working this issue hard. Since defense officials launched a “USA 4 Military Families” state partnership program three years ago, 13 states have changed their policies to let spouses get unemployment compensation.

“I see it as a part of what DoD is doing today to connect these folks to military families and their communities,” said Joyce Raezer, chief operating officer for the National Military Family Association.

“For years, DoD’s attitude was that they couldn’t do anything about it, it wasn’t their issue,” Raezer said. “But now they are saying that if military spouse careers are important to retention, maybe they need to step up and do what they can to help spouses.”



Map of the states that offer unemployment to military spouses who move on orders:

Map of Unemployment Benefits for Military Spouses

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Wednesday, October 17, 2007

Win It On Wednesday! - October 17, 2007

Since having my little one, I started up a "Mommy Blog" (shudder) and a Baby Product Review Blog.

One of the things I realized is that there are LOADS of fun contests out there where you can win cool stuff from bloggers and their sponsors. So, every Wednesday (barring baby-related craziness) I will put up a post of some of the ones I found listed by date.

If you are a blogger hosting a contest, or know of a contest on a blog, please list it in the comments with the link to the actual post (not the main page), the prize you can win, and the end date.

And, if the contest is still going when I put up the next post, I'll include it in the main body of that post, too.

Please, only contests hosted on blogs. Spammy corporate-owned bots will be hunted down and destroyed--not really, but I'll delete the "comment."

So, if you are interested in entering contests, head on over to these blogs and also remember to check the comments throughout the week to see if anyone added any more!

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Saturday, October 13, 2007

Step One: New Template

I'm revising the template...expect a few kinks as I iron things out over the next week or so.

Also, two nice people commented while I was re-installing Haloscan so they aren't showing up now that I have things back. I'll manually add your comments in, soon.

Next step: I have a picture book for young kids about deployment that I will review and give away.

Coming soon: Guest blogging and carnivals...so let me know if you want to guest blog!

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