"I am so angry at him for what he's doing to you."
"He's out of his mind."
"You are better than I am. I would not put up with this."
I suppose my civilian friends think they are being supportive when they say these things.
What I do not think they realize is that they are isolating me further.
Everyone sometimes need to vent about their significant other--not me of course, DH is perfect *wink*--or maybe even just circumstances.
When DH is home, I tell him about everything...but of course with the deployment, I do not want to bother him about every little thing.
When my civilian friends make statements like that though, I cross them off my list of confidants about military-related gripes.
After all, I do not want anyone to be upset with my DH, especially when it usually is an issue beyond his control. I just want to let off some steam and then let it go.
Even a simple complaint about the 100 degree heat while I was nine months pregnant could bring on a remark about how "unfair it was for him to drag me to Texas."
So, I keep it to myself.
And most of my military friends have husbands in the same unit. With few exceptions, their husbands are directly above or below mine in the chain of command. So, they're off that list, too.
Which leaves me, well...here.